It should be natural

Would a father who carries out his role as a father centered on true love say to his children, "I am the father, so respect me!"? No, he would not. If the children feel that their father really loves them, they would naturally want to be more filial to their father. It is the same. Instead of saying, "Since I am the man, you as a woman have to follow me! You have to serve me!" If the husband lives for the sake of his wife, his wife would naturally stand in the position of object and would want to attend her husband.

-- Hyun Jin Moon, Fukuoka Church Visit, December 11, 2004